Loneliness is that sad feeling you have when you don’t have anyone to play with. Sometimes you feel alone when there are others around and they don’t want to listen or pay attention to you. It hurts to feel alone. God made you to have people love you and for you to have good friends. When that doesn’t happen you know inside that something is wrong.

You could try to be more kind and friendly to others. Sometimes it helps to be a good listener too. But it doesn’t help, when you’re lonely, to blame yourself and think, “it’s all my fault because I am ‘bad.’”

People who are divided and have little parts inside, usually feel lonely. Often they have lost connection with their original self— the real, deep-down at the core you. You will always feel something is missing when you aren’t living from that original self which God made you to be. As long as parts of you are hidden away, there will be some loneliness. That way you will keep searching until you find all your parts. Every little bit and part of you is valuable and needed!

Making friends with those inside can help you to be a better friend to people on the outside. The same sort of kindness, listening, compromise, working out differences…are needed both inside and outside. Getting to know  all of you, your angry parts, your happy parts and everyone in between, will make you feel less lonely. Getting to know your parts is really getting to know you, since they are actually all you.

Don’t quit trying to make friends with other people. It can be hard and yes, you might get your feelings hurt by them. But it is better to keep trying to be friendly so someday you might find a special friend. Staying away from everyone can make you bitter and miserable. When trying to make friends, it is important to listen to those inside. You don’t want to get fooled by someone pretending to be nice when they are not good. You have a “knower” inside you that can help you tell good from evil.

Try not to let the loneliness stop you from living. There are many things that are fun, that you can do alone. You can create crafts, art, games, dances, songs, swing on a swing, and learn new things to make, and more. Even though you feel sad, get moving and do something to lift that mood.

Remember, when you feel like no one cares about you: “God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.” Hebrews 13:5-6

By Beth Shewchuk, LMHC,LPC,MS

Resource: NIV Holy Bible

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